Gambling is often a hidden addiction that can cripple couples.  By the time the gambling habit comes to light, debt can be profound, trust has been broken, and there is a mound of consequences to work through. But, there is hope in the darkness.

Step 1:

Seek individual counseling services for the partner struggling with gambling as well as the spouse.  Couples counseling can begin later in the process.

After the immediate fire has been put out and each person has gotten to a place of willingness to work on the relationship, couples counseling can begin.  Working through the strain in your relationship will likely be difficult but worthwhile.  

Step 2:

Working through financial infidelity is similar to a romantic affair.  The magnitude of the gambling activity and debt must be brought to light. 

Determine a household budget with small amounts going to debt repayment.  Do not accept a bailout from friends or family members.  Slow debt repayment is purposeful in the recovery process.

Have fun rebuilding the relationship.  Despite the stress you may be feeling, it is still important to connect as a couple.  You may find you have more time to enjoy each other’s company without the secrecy of gambling interfering. 

Step 3:

Take turns planning a budget-friendly date night. Create a new habit or routine, such as taking a walk together after dinner. 

Contact Robin for help repairing your relationship from the effects of gambling addiction.